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This is actually taking longer than i expected it to take..maybe…i’m not really sure what the end result is supposed to look like????

last night the kids pretty much went to bed without a sound…HE woke up for 10 minutes, cried for 4-fidgeted for 6, and dosed off….in the meantime he woke HER up, who didn’t cry and put herself right back to sleep!

in the morning SHE woke up a tad early (6:37 instead of after 7 am) but i just let her wake up…maybe it’ll help her nap better today…

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ok so recap of last night…my jujube woke up and would not go back to sleep for an hour and a half…she didn’t cry continuously, but off and on..but she just couldn’t put herself back to sleep…she woke up “Mac”, who wimpered, made some noise, and put himself back to sleep in 3 minutes. I dunno when this kid is gonna get it…

today:
nap #1- “Cheese” no crying, put herself to sleep after 5-6 minutes. “Mac” cried for 3-4 minutes and then knocked out…

the rest of the naps? little or basically no crying at the start..”Mac” slept fine..”Cheese” canNOT keep herself asleep for more than 30 minutes now…she goes to sleep fine but once she wakes herself up, its difficult for her to sooth herself back to sleep…

Nighttime? no crying alhamdullillah….bedtime as normal…

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DAY THREE:

A whole new woooooooooooooooooooooooooorld
A neeeew……..uh…ok i don’t really know the rest of the words but it’s a whole new world ok?

“Mac” (the BOY) slept 10 1/2 hours uninterrupted..and probably would have slept longer if “Cheese” (the GIRL) had not woken him up…but 7:00ish is our wake up time (for the last two months their night sleep has always totaled ten hours from start to finish including any awakenings)…so when she started crying to wake up around 6:50am i figured it would be a good time for them to start their day…

SHE tried her little best..she woke up today around 4 instead of 3, and she ‘made noise’ for 20 minutes and then cried for 10 and then was out. I can’t believe I’m actually going to say this but i might actually have to set the alarm again for fajr! How exciting! I have not done that since the kids were born!

Once this sleep thing got settled it seems the feeding got settled too….they are feeding 4-5 times a day…usually somewhere b/t 3-4 hours apart…

I’ve discovered that HE definately needs to start solids which i’ve hesitatnly tried to start maybe 3 days the last 2 weeks…no more dilly dallying, this kid is hungry…

And i’ve also realized i need to start using my non-traditional cloth diapers (little G) if i expect them to go that long without a change…

let’s see how the rest of today goes…i really pray the crying stops completely…even the ten minutes here and there is grating…

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nap #1 – “Mac” no crying, “Cheese” 5 minutes
nap # 2 -both cried for three minutes
nap #3 and 4 – what happened?? 20-30 minute cries each time..hard crying…feeling like i’m back tracking….like this is not supposed to happen…

SHE is also having a hard time sleeping through…again she took short naps…she was so exhausted that she fell asleep at 7:30 for another nap (bedtime is usually 9)…HE woke up at 8, she’s still sleeping (and it’s almost nine now)…for a twin mom, this is the most annoying thing…its not so easy to adjust routines when one does something so out of the ordinary…but i just can’t see myself waking her up now…hopefully she’ll just sleep straight through the night now….let’s all take a minute to pray…

ok so bedtime..”Cheese” sleep straight through..which is just as well, baby girl keeps waking herself up she must be exhausted..”Mac” went out like a light…i gave her a dream feed, and i think i’m set for the night insh”Allah!

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Day TWO:

12:00 am – “Cheese” (the GIRL) awakes…crying off and on
12:59 am – She sleeps!
3:15 am – both awake
3: 25 am – she sleeps (was that all??)
3: 39 am- HE sleeps?? (I feel like that was too easy considering they’re used to getting a bottle here)
5: 45 – she wakes again..he keeps sleeping (this is exactly the opposite of what i anticipated, go figure)…poor thing, she’s like half asleep….wish she would just dose off…
6:20 – “Cheese” finally doses off…mommy should too!

i can’t believe i’ve gone a whole night and no milk..no pacifiers..no swaddle….i’m amazed at how well musa slept tongiht..only waking up once…
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ok so the run down today went as follows…last night was tough for (here’s the shocker) “CHEESE”…shockingly my glutenous son was cool with just waking up the one time for like 20 minutes. the big problem yesterday was that their nap times were only 30 minutes…(is that why he slept so well at night?) hmmm….

TODAY was amaaaaaaaaaaazing…did i say amazing? i meant amaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaazing…after a full nights sleep they drank a full bottle alhamdullillah..no more dinky small feeds…their sleep routine has always been very regularly masha’Allah but what a convenience to have their feed routine set too!

nap time went, surprisingly, as USUAL…three naps total..each about two hours after they last woke up…2 hours for the first one, 1 1/2 for the second, and a catnap in the late afternoon. this has been their routine since 3 months and despite crying before falling asleep, they stayed sleeping.

they cried for about 10 minutes before each one…sometimes not at all….some were ‘fake’ cries…and by fake i mean, cry cry cry…cry cry cry, [mommy peeks over the crib] tee hee tee hee, we were just fooling you mommy [mommy leaves] CRY CRY CRY WAAAAAAAAAH! i wonder if coming back in regularly really helps….my kids pop a rib after i leave…

anyways, they each cried for about 10 minutes before bedtime…all day i was expecting them to cry so much longer and was just so amazed to actually see them get settled faster…a few times “Mac” even woke himself up, cried for a second or two, and then fell back asleep…

i feel so FREE…i know i am not out of the woods yet but hallalluya i’m already a believer…its so freeeeeeeeeeing not to have to wrap my kids while they scream bloody murder…its so freeing not to have to worry about the pacifier falling out before they were in ‘deep sleep’…..i can’t get over the fact that i can have a free night with no feedings….

lets see where this goes tomorrow….

on a side note…there’s some interesting things i never knew about my kids before…when they were swaddled, they pretty much stayed put…where i put them down is where they slept…now, he shifts up and down…and baby girl? she is masha’Allah much more talented and likes to squeeze and contort her body into the farthest corner of her crib..and she flips! she ends up on her stomach more times than i can count…as long as she’s breathing and can keep her appendages in the order Allah put them, i’m cool…but interestingly enough, when she is in bed, and he cries, now she lifts her head up, picks up her upper body, and tries to look over her bumper to see where he is…

(she can’t yet, but hey what do i care, its still cute and i wish i had taken a picture!)

on ANOTHER side note, jazakhallahu khairan for everyone’s stories and input…its so helpful to hear what others are doing, how they struggled, how they succeeded…and i like that we share ideas…what we think is good, what we think is not so good….i pray that our children grow up to be strong muslims, confident, independent, with no trust or attachment issues (*wink* hashfana)

hehe…ok guys over and out! i just might actually get a full nights sleep tonight…or maybe not, either way i’ll keep you posted…

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Day ONE:

Well, when i got up today i thought about whether or not this was a good day to start…the kids woke up at vastly different times and seemed to be off sync in their feed/sleep schedule…i try really hard to get my kids routines to overlap, so this was not ideal. i knew i was heading for a cry fest before naps and its one thing if they are both crying at the same time, its another if one is in a deep sleep and the other just goes in and starts to ‘sing’.

well, it didn’t take long for them to get back on track…”Cheese” (the GIRL) took a 30 min nap b/c she slept in late, while “Mac” (the BOY) slept longer…so with nap number two i decided to give it a go..

success! they cried for 20 min before sleeping, withOUT dun dun duh daaaaah – their pacifiers…at first i debated whether this was worth it…i figured out pretty early that they could sleep without the wrap…and they’re already used to me putting them down awake in their cribs..but man oh man did they NOT want to sleep without their pacifiers..so i debated whether i really want to stop all these ‘comforts’ in one go…but in the end i decided i really don’t think i’ll be able to go through all of this again when time comes to stop that habit…i’d rather suffer now and just end it all…

Round 2: at the next nap time, baby girl caught on pretty fast…made a few noises, and went down without a fight.. baby boy? cried for maybe 25 minutes before zonking out. Boy this is tough stuff. Alhamdullillah baby girl slept right through the crying…

Nap 3? more of the same….the biggest issue was not putting them down, but what to do when they both woke up after 30 minutes… all in all, they had three veeeery short naps today…hopefully tomorrow they will learn to put themselves back to sleep after waking from a nap too early….

At bedtime “Cheese” knocked out once again…and “Mac” cried…for an hour…

As the first day winds down I feel a mixture of so many emotions..excitement for the possibility that this might work…wonder, if this is really best for my kids? It’s the kind of thing where you can’t help feeling like you’re the worse parent in the world for putting your child through this…I just keep telling myself one week won’t kill ‘um…

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Day 0:

So I’m really getting sick of the regression my darling buttercups have been doing…they started sleeping through the night (meaning about 5 hours) as young as a couple of weeks old. These babies came out sleeping 3-4 hours from the get go. And I got majorly spoiled…”Cheese” (the GIRL) even slept through about 8-9 hours when she was a couple of months old followed by “Mac” (the BOY) not too far behind at about 5-6 hours.

Then they hit three months and everything changed. I don’t know if it was moving, or what, but since that time, I don’t think I’ve ever slept through the night. Which would have been fine, except I constantly felt like something bad happened to change a good thing, and I needed to figure out what that was and fix it. Some nights I was lucky to sleep 3 hours..some nights I was up every 1-2 hours.

The doctor started telling me at 4 months, let them learn on their own…let them cry it out…but I couldn’t REALLY do that…I could learn to let them cry ‘a little’ but was I really prepared for hours of crying? One setting off the other for an unlimited chorus of cries? I couldn’t chance it.

Fast forward…the babies are now 5 months. And I’m TIRED of all the nighttime feedings. I’m tired of the obsession to swaddle. I’m tired of the kids taking out their pacifiers and waking themselves up. It’s time to go cold turkey.

Tonight, Insha’Allah I am going to attempt to ferberize, de-swaddleize, de-pacifize my babies. Let’s see where this ride takes me.

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